Anyone who follows me on a feed or via email has probably
seen the flurry of activity here over the past couple of days. So you may not
be surprised when I say that I’m hanging up my keyboard and calling it a day
here on the blog.
When I started this blog almost 5 years ago, I was writing
about the health and fitness journey that I was embarking on with my personal
trainer. I loved sharing that journey, talking about becoming a runner, body
image, style, sharing recipes, and just life in general. But this blog has been
a little lost for the past couple of years because of the direction my life has
taken, and I never really found my footing again.
And awkwardly, I posted something I probably shouldn’t have
yesterday, and received a scathing reply which called me a liar and a selfish,
passive aggressive narcissist (among other colorful things). This was from someone who doesn’t know me personally, but who
is also not a random stranger, so someone who certainly has some
preconceived notions about me which they have apparently been hoping to confirm
by quietly following my blog for months now.
I could ask why people who clearly hate me are bothering to
read my stupid little personal blog, but I know the answer. And I know that no
amount of pleading on my part (or a blog rename and address change) will stop that
from happening. I’m not running away nor am I letting people like this win, but I
also don’t want to feel like I’m constantly looking over my shoulder, or having to watch what I say so I can shield myself from the judgment
and mockery that is likely happening at my expense.
So with all of that and an overall lack of
content and motivation, I’ve found myself wondering what’s the point? My blog was a great way
for me to meet a lot of fun people with similar interests over the years, which
I’m so grateful for. But it’s not fun for me anymore.
There’s a few blogs that I do still read, but for the most
part, I’ve cut way back on that in recent months too. So if you want to catch
up, your best bet is to do so the old-fashioned way, by sending me an email,
tweet, or note on Facebook.
Thanks for letting me share my life with you these past few
years, friends.
I'm sorry for the recent troubles - I read your original post and it's just weird when people get fixated on you. I don't blame you for wanting to shut it down; I'll miss reading your posts, but at least I can keep up with you via FB...and hey - maybe we'll get to meet up again one of these days! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Shelley! I meant to say, thank you for your comment on that too!
DeleteAnd we definitely need to meet up again soon... when are you coming up north? :)
It's so awful what people will say to each other over the internet. I am really sorry to hear that you got such a negative response from that person. I didn't see your original post but I can't imagine why anything would deserve a reaction like that. I will miss your blog (and have also thought about shutting my own blog down, so I very much understand). Either way, we will certainly be in touch other ways.
ReplyDelete(BTW - Adam and I didn't end up going to Milwaukee last weekend since he wasn't feeling well. But we'll definitely find another time to do a Brewers game outing, et al.)
Big hugs!!!
Thanks, Emily! For some background, I posted about something that happened several years ago that was truthful but painted my ex in an unflattering light. Apparently his girlfriend has been reading my blog for months (which is totally not weird, especially since my blog is NOT connected to my name or social media profiles at all, but whatever) and didn't like that, so she left me a very long, judgmental comment in response. I'm always open to criticism here, but I don't want to keep posting knowing that people like that are reading and, apparently, just waiting to pounce on things to tell me what a terrible person I am.
DeleteThankfully you and I are actually friends, so this blog isn't our only way of communicating :) And I wondered about Milwaukee this weekend! We ended up going there on Sunday instead of Saturday, so I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Let's find a time to hang out soon though! Kim should be scheduling some boxing classes for September sometime soon, if nothing else.
Maybe make your blog invitation only? Sorry to see your blog go, and I hope it will be back someday. Don't let the haters get to you, I feel sorry for those who don't have anything better to do than to attack people on-line. They must not be very happy and also are likely bored. If I ever get the notion to leave a comment on someone's blog that isn't something positive, I will do a lot of soul searching and then do something productive, like go for a walk or donate my time to a charity! Peace out. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Pete! I thought about that, but like having it open to anyone. Haters gonna hate though, right?
DeleteThose are good suggestions for what to do if you're feeling negative, but then I'd expect nothing less from you :)
That really sucks. I read your post and made a mental note to come back to comment...what I'm doing now...and now I see this. It's kinda sad, really, how people choose to spend their time sometimes. It's so easy to hide behind a computer screen. Agh. Hopefully this doesn't cause you too much harm or annoyance. You make the internet a much better place to read :) I'll miss your writing, but I get your decision. Hang in there. xo
ReplyDeleteYES! "It's so easy to hide behind a computer screen."
DeleteAnd thanks for the kind words :) I still love reading your blog, so there's that!